BY ELLA WHEELER WILCOX
Laugh, and the world laughs with you;
Weep, and you weep alone;
For the sad old earth must borrow its mirth,
But has trouble enough of its own.
Sing, and the hills will answer;
Sigh, it is lost on the air;
The echoes bound to a joyful sound,
But shrink from voicing care.
Rejoice, and men will seek you;
Grieve, and they turn and go;
They want full measure of all your pleasure,
But they do not need your woe.
Be glad, and your friends are many;
Be sad, and you lose them all,—
There are none to decline your nectared wine,
But alone you must drink life’s gall.
Feast, and your halls are crowded;
Fast, and the world goes by.
Succeed and give, and it helps you live,
But no man can help you die.
There is room in the halls of pleasure
For a large and lordly train,
But one by one we must all file on
Through the narrow aisles of pain.
She wrote these words after she encountered a grieving widow. She gave comfort to the woman as she cried, but Ella was on her way to a ball and while there was overcome with sadness from the widow.
This poem at first seems to encourage those who are sad to overcome their grief, but then concludes that we all will have pain in our lives and others will not be able to comfort us. I have experienced this and while isolating ourselves can be detrimental to our mental health over the long term, solitude is not the same as loneliness. Solitude is a chosen condition to work through our emotions while loneliness is a feeling of wanting to be with others, but unable to do so. Solitude can be a symptom of depression and those who find themselves often withdrawing from the company of others may need more than some time alone.
I created this piece from a couple of stock images (I hope to have resources soon to take original photos for my art) and wanted to convey the darkness that is felt when grieving. It can be so all consuming that we feel we will never recover. Some people don't. They give into the grief and are never the same. It is my hope that all those who are grieving or suffering from depression will find comfort and relief so that they may once again enjoy all the beautiful things this world has to offer.
I had such a great time last week with the Saxton family for a sweet and fun mini session. It was really hot, even later in the day, but the kids had a blast! I love little sessions like this that are long enough for fun, but not too long for the kids to get bored. Little Mulberry Park is a huge area with several entrances and I found this "secret" one that had a nice field that had not been mowed yet this season! There was a perfect little tree up the hill that cast a nice shady area for us to settle into. The best part is that they could go around the corner to the playground after for the kids to play! I will definitely be heading back to this little spot again in the future!
Last fall I had the fortune of having a family drop in to my fall mini session event. It was just the dad, Ralph, and his little boy, E. I took the most adorable portrait of E. Ralph mentioned at the time that his wife was a dentist and would be needing new photos for her practice soon. I was excited for the opportunity to work with her.
Christmas came and went and 2018 started off with me being ill and unable to run my business, but just as I was feeling better, his wife, Erin called. She was taking over her mother's dental practice in Grayson and they were updating the name to Heritage Family Dentistry as well as the website. Including new headshots, team photos and an outside image of the location was her priority. Having a mobile studio makes this a great fit for me because I'm not tied to a physical location and can set up anywhere.
We looked ahead and the weather was cold with a bit of rain expected, but we set the date for a few weeks out and though it was a mostly cloudy and windy day, it turned out perfect. They close early on Thursdays and I came in just as they were wrapping up the day. I set up in their office with my lights and used a gorgeous rock wall in the lobby for the backdrop on the headshots - it would flow with the website colors she had picked out and give a visual reference for new patients when they entered the office.
For the group photo we went to a nearby park. I wasn't sure about where to set-up, but then the suggestion came out to use one of the huge oak trees - the symbol for the new practice is an oak tree and it made perfect sense! The ladies all looked so lovely and organizing them around the tree was a challenge as it was not the most pose friendly location, but I think the final shot came out wonderful! Each of these ladies has such a beautiful personality and are just the warmest, kindest people you could hope to work with. The wind did pose a bit of an issue, but thankfully we did the group photo after headshots so that the close-ups were as perfect as possible.
I also took a shot of Erin with her mom. It was so heartwarming to see a strong love between them. The practice was built by Kathy and passed on to Erin, so it made sense to include a photo of them together. The name of the practice, Heritage Family Dentistry, truly fits!
After the ladies headed out for the day, I walked around the main outside area of the office. As a newer building, it featured offices above and retail below with a few restaurants that had tables set up. Because of the wind, the umbrellas on the table could not be opened and there was quite a bit of the famous Georgia green spring pollen on the black awnings, but I was able to clean those up in Photoshop. The main goal for the outside photo was to help new clients find the location on the upper level in a corner. The only signage being on the upper side of the building. I decided to climb up on a brick wall to get a better view with my wide angle lens so that I could prominently position the sign. There was a perfect break in the clouds, giving a swath of blue sky just over the building, but the remaining light cast only light shadows on the buildings, making the resulting image just gorgeous.
I could not have asked for a better group of women to work with. Erin and her team at Heritage Family Dentistry are the kindest people I have ever met and if I lived in the area, I would use her as my dentist! If you live nearby, I suggest trying them out for your dental needs!
It was such a delight for me to work with the Hairston family. They are full of love and energy and just gave off this feeling of the perfect American family. They had a wonderful little park area across from their house where we shot some lovely outdoor photos and then we went inside to get some special shots on their hearth. We were laughing and having a blast the whole time. I just love how their images came out! Here are just a few of my favorites!
Family is the key to happiness...
A few weeks ago I got a call from a lovely lady named Carolyn. She wanted to gift a family session to her daughter, Sarah, for her birthday. Sarah, her husband, and little boy hadn't had many photos taken together and I'm sure as grandma she really wanted some, too! So, I gave Sarah a call and we talked for a little while about what she was looking for. She was so easy to talk to and her little boy isn't much older than my daughter so we connected really well about that.
We set a date for last Saturday and just before our session was scheduled to start, it rained! Not just a sprinkle, but a downpour. Overcast days and a little rain aren't a big deal, but we decided not to risk it being muddy or getting them too wet and rescheduled for the next day. It ended up being perfect!
They had chosen one of my favorite parks, McDaniel Farm, for the session. It was very popular that evening and there were a lot of other people there for photos! Sarah and her family were just adorable and so much fun! We made our way around the park, stopping in several spots to get some shots and really just relaxing and having fun.
Their little boy was just the cutest little guy with this huge grin and big, brown eyes. He did great at first, but like most toddlers, he lost interest in posed shots pretty quickly - except those by himself. He was more than keen to sit and let me take his photo, but didn't want to share the spotlight with mom and dad! We had so much fun exploring and running around and I took quite a few of mom and dad together.
In the end, I had so many great shots, that I had a hard time deciding what to edit! I'm so glad I was able to meet this fantastic family and I hope to be able to work with them a lot more in the future!
Here are some of my favorites!
Hi, I'm Kathleen! I'm a photographer, digital artist, and mom of two. I love to travel and spend time with my kids.I am mostly focusing on digital art and photomanipulation right now. Thanks for joining me!
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